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The Socially Skilled Child Molester: Differentiating the Guilty from the Falsely Accused

The Socially Skilled Child Molester: Differentiating the Guilty from the Falsely AccusedAuthor: Carla van Dam
Publisher: Routledge
Category: Book

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Pages: 184
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Dimensions (in): 8.4 x 5.8 x 0.7

ISBN: 0789028050
Dewey Decimal Number: 616.85836
EAN: 9780789028051
ASIN: 0789028050

Publication Date: April 7, 2006
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Product Description
Know what signs indicate a child molester!

Revealing the secret but successful strategies used by child molesters allows adults to intervene long before children are abused. The Socially Skilled Child Molester: Differentiating the Guilty from the Falsely Accused identifies how socially proficient molesters successfully ingratiate themselves into families and communities. The book closely examines their techniques and strategies while detailing the tools for prevention. The difficult issue of false accusation is tackled by learning the distinctions that clearly differentiate the actions of the guilty from those who are innocent. Practical recommendations are discussed on how to more accurately assess danger and manage safety.

The Socially Skilled Child Molester focuses on the sexual deviants who 'groom' family, friends, and their community to allow their activities, though arousing suspicion, to go on without restriction. This essential source reveals their tactics. Using composite representations of differing types of child molesters, the author illustrates through case history and detailed research how these offenders succeed, while providing recommendations on how communities can stop enabling and protecting such individuals.

The Socially Skilled Child Molester discusses in depth:

’groomers’ versus ’grabbers’

common misperceptions about child molesters

the groomer profile—the different types

groomer strategies for manipulation

correctly differentiating between pedophiles and the falsely accused

predicting risk

the key concerns when interviewing child molesters

the three levels of child molesters

recidivism for the sexual deviant

The Socially Skilled Child Molester comprehensively brings together helpful strategies and vital information essential for parents, lawmakers, police, teachers, and therapists.


Customer Reviews:
3 out of 5 stars Not excellent, but worth the read for any mental health professional   September 30, 2008
Social worker (CT)
Worth the read, wish it had gone MORE into techniques, but what they do offer is worth the knowledge gained. If you want to read a book that is more clinical in nature, this would be it...


5 out of 5 stars Safe Harbor reviews Van Dam's new book   November 19, 2006
Safe Harbor Resources (Malta, Ohio USA)
6 out of 6 found this review helpful

This is the best synthesis of the child sexual abuse threat to date. It deplores how Society, Law Enforcement, and youth-serving leaderships continue to be faked out by these shrewd groomers who exploit our tendency to keep suspicions to ourselves. For example she shows how family court processes are duped into awarding custody of victims to their tormentors whose charm and social sophistication exasperate desperate spouses trying to protect their children.

Van Dam points out, as does former FBI profiler Kenneth Lanning, that the prolific Groomers leave trails behind them. Lanning's are "evidence trails" composed of facts a court could consider. Van Dam's are "slime trails" composed of far more numerous feelings, hunches, suspicions, and instances of observed weird behavior. Lanning's evidence trail garnered by costly expert investigators, gets pooled, consolidated, and inspected for patterns i.e. profiled. Van's Dam's slime trail of hunches doesn't. But she says it could be and should be. If the slime trail were profiled as the evidence trail is, then courts, parents, and maybe even the Press wouldn't be fooled anymore.

It's a wonderful idea, one that our research nonprofit has been working to implement for nearly four years. With a county ready to participate as a pilot project, and already screening for observers' opinions (we call them "Appearances of Potential for Complaint") we have been waiting for high profile leadership to arrive on the scene to sum it all up. With the arrival of this book it looks like Van Dam has the plan, and we have the crucible and a liability-safe gathering method in which it all can be tested. Perhaps her next book will be titled, "Solving the Liability Dilemma in Volunteer Screening." (Dave Allburn, Executive Director, Safe Harbor Resources 501(c)3, 888-806-4201)



5 out of 5 stars Van Dam Knows Child Milesters   November 12, 2006
Cheryl Johnson (Lake Stevens, WA USA)
2 out of 3 found this review helpful

Carla Van Dam nails child molesters...again. She discusses how we can prevent child sexual abuse. If we're aware, there's every reason to know who these predators are and how to protect and empower ourselves and our children. She has worked with molesters for years, and her depth of knowledge is a great resource for parents. Van Dam says that child molesters are not people who fit the "stranger danger" mode. Instead they are people we know...family & friends. They molest our children, in our homes and in front of us. Example: We want to believe the best of Uncle Josh, but he keeps tickling the kids, even when they say "don't". He buys them gifts and loves taking them camping. At times you've told him to "stop", but he says "you're boring". He is so much fun...you decide he's harmless and really likes the kids. Van Dam has many more examples of how these molesters groom us, and how we can protect our kids.


5 out of 5 stars Grabbers get publicity while Groomers get to harm more kids.   May 23, 2006
Safe Harbor Resources (Malta, Ohio USA)
3 out of 3 found this review helpful

This is the best synthesis of the child sexual abuse threat to date. It deplores how Society, Law Enforcement, and youth-serving leaderships continue to be faked out by these shrewd groomers who exploit our tendendcy to keep suspicions to ourselves. For example she shows how family court processes are duped into awarding custody of victims to their tormentors whose charm and social sophistication exasperate desperate spouses trying to protect their children.

Van Dam points out, as does former FBI profiler Kenneth Lanning, that the prolific Groomers leave trails behind them. Lanning's are "evidence trails" composed of facts a court could consider. Van Dam's are "slime trails" composed of far more numerous feelings, hunches, suspicions, and instances of observed weird behavior. Lanning's evidence trail garnered by costly expert investigators, gets pooled, consolidated, and inspected for patterns i.e. profiled. Van's Dam's slime trail of hunches doesn't. But she says it could be and should be. If the slime trail were profiled as the evidence trail is, then courts, parents, and maybe even the Press wouldn't be fooled anymore.

It's a wonderful idea, one that our research nonprofit has been working to implement for nearly four years. With a county ready to participate as a pilot project, and already screening for observers' opinions (we call them "Appearances of Potential for Complaint") we have been waiting for high profile leadership to arrive on the scene to sum it all up. With the arrival of this book it looks like Van Dam has the plan, and we have the crucible and a liability-safe gathering method in which it all can be tested. Perhaps her next book will be titled, "Solving the Liablity Dilemma in Volunteer Screening." (Dave Allburn, Executive Director, Safe Harbor Resources 501(c)3, 888-806-4201)



5 out of 5 stars Belongs on the professional's - and parent's - bookshelf   May 14, 2006
Hjordes Norman
13 out of 13 found this review helpful

This is an excellent piece of work, and definitely worth reading. Van Dam gives clear and understandable criteria for identifying molesters.
I was particularly pleased with van Dam's semantic separation of child molesters into two categories: Groomers and Grabbers. If these identifying labels become standard usage when discussing this crime, especially in the media, it may have an impact on the awareness levels in society in general. Currently the average citizen equates child molestation with Grabbers (stranger danger/snatch n' grab) and has little to no understanding of grooming behaviors or the pervasiveness of groomers in society. It is critical to change this awareness level.
"Socially Skilled" seems to have a professional level target audience... though it is a comfortable read this isn't a book I would expect most people to pick up. I think it assumes a prior, if minor, education on this subject by the reader. I would have preferred that she define child molestation and sexual abuse in the first chapter, and that she go into more specifics in her definitions. Most people - even those in law enforcement - often do not understand what constitutes child molestation (is it always rape? would frottage be molestation? how about sexually inappropriate speaking?). This book was not written to address the psychological consequences to the victim, but some mention of it might help clarify the seriousness of ANY type of molestation in a power-differential relationship. I would also have preferred more specific detail on signatures of offenders (for instance, tickling was repeatedly mentioned but hair-holding was not). However, van Dam did a wonderful job of presenting groomer behavior through her composites.
I would strongly suggest that this book belongs on the shelf of anyone in education or law enforcement. Every parent should read it, of course, but as we all know, few will.


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