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Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

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Authors: Henry Cloud, John Townsend
Publisher: Zondervan
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ISBN: 0310247454
Dewey Decimal Number: 158
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Publication Date: April 1, 1992
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Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define wh

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In order to call themselves good Christians, many people have drawn overly flexible boundaries (unwilling to say no, always accommodating others' needs) or overly rigid boundaries (to the point of being righteous and judgmental). Psychologists and inspirational speakers Cloud and Townsend show readers how to set reasonable boundaries in order to follow the true path of Christianity. This book has become immensely popular, most likely because it makes personal boundaries easier to define and is filled with spiritual purpose. Some cautions: the format can be overly self-helpish for such a complex discussion and the authors at one point imply that judicious spankings may be an acceptable form of setting boundaries with children. However, many Christians will probably find themselves grateful for this biblical context of boundaries. --Gail Hudson

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ESSENTIAL!! November 1, 2009
DKG (Auburn, CA)
Whether you choose the book or the AudioCD, this work is essential for anyone interested in living more authentically. If taken to heart this work will help create conscious choices for interpersonal relationships, dealing with unresolved issues from the past, raising children, and creating the inner dynamics for satisfying relationships and a more fulfilling life. I listened to the AudioCD on my iPod. It's easy to listen to a little bit everyday. Get it. Listen. and Live.

1 out of 5 stars

A faulty view of God weakens this work October 29, 2009
Classical Mom
3 out of 5 found this review helpful

I picked up the book Boundaries to help address needs in the life of a friend; I had heard the book promoted by a prominent Christian talk show host. While there are a few good points in the book, the good is grossly outweighed by the bad. The underlying reasoning of the authors is flawed by a faulty view of God: "[I]f [God] invades our boundaries, we will die." On the contrary, if God does not invade our boundaries, we will die; if he does not indwell us, we are spiritually dead. The authors speak inconsistently about God, indicating a lack of commitment to Him as reveals Himself in scripture. On the one hand they acknowledge that "God [is] a redeemer: he finds, saves, and heals his loved ones who are lost and in bondage." On the other hand they assert that "[God] does not rescue us; he wants us to work it out for our own good. He will not violate our wish to be left alone . . .. He allows us to say no and go our way." Now, I ask you whether this is logical? If God finds and saves those who are lost and in bondage, is that not a rescue? If he provides forgiveness of sins through the sacrifice of His Son Jesus, is that not a rescue? Scriptures tell us that we have all, like wandering sheep, gone our own way; it is only because God, like a good shepherd, seeks us that any of us are rescued and come to him.
Since the authors have a faulty view of God, they also have a faulty view of His Word. Actions and attitudes that God calls sin, the authors would call "boundary violations." Each individual is given latitude by the authors to define one's own boundaries; thus, one can define one's boundaries to include, not exclude, something that God calls sin. Since God is not recognized as having a right to invade our boundaries and establish the rules for our lives, one can, under their rules, define right and wrong for one's self. Doesn't that seem reminiscent of what a certain serpent promised the first woman in the garden of paradise?
For a solid book on saying no to peer pressure, codependency and fear, look to Edward T. Welch's [[ASIN:0875526004 When People Are Big and God Is Small: Overcoming Peer Pressure, Codependency, and the Fear of Man (Resources for Changing Lives)].

5 out of 5 stars

This is a must read! October 18, 2009
Andrew Corson (Walla Walla, WA)
I was required to read this book for my ethics class, but it is a must read for every Adult around the world. This book will help you re-structure your thinking so that you can set the boundries you need in your life. Every College student should be required to read this book.

5 out of 5 stars

Really good stuff, beginning to end October 17, 2009
J. D. Richardson (AZ)
If you are three, you hope your parents are reading the book
If you are twenty-three, you hope you are going where you want to go?
If you are forty-three, read this for yourself, give it to others
If you are sixty-three, I hope you enjoy seeing yourself in the lessons

Stories abound, all with a Christian focus and interleaved with optional supportive scripture. We did a group study on the book; that gave each of us a broader perspective of the ideas presented. A central theme - protect your heart. My favorite lesson: 'the stupidest thing you can do is not forgive'. Favorite new word: Boundarylessness.

5 out of 5 stars

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life October 12, 2009
Shannon Miller
The best book on boundaries ever written! I use it all the time with my clients. It will change your life!

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