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Raising a Thinking Preteen: The "I Can Problem Solve" Program for 8- to 12- Year-Olds
enlarge	Authors: Myrna B. Shure, Roberta Israeloff Publisher: Holt Paperbacks Category: Book List Price: ~~$16.00~~ Buy Used: $0.05 You Save: $15.95 (100%) New (30) Used (38) from $0.05 Media: Paperback Number Of Items: 1 Pages: 272 Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.2 Dimensions (in): 8.3 x 5.4 x 0.7 ISBN: 080506642X Dewey Decimal Number: 306 EAN: 9780805066425 ASIN: 080506642X Publication Date: April 1, 2001 Availability: Usually ships in 1-2 business days Shipping: Expedited shipping available Shipping: International shipping available Condition: Help save a tree. Buy all your used books from Green Earth Books. Read - Recycle - Reuse!

Editorial Reviews: Amazon.com Review In most public schools today, children aren't taught problem-solving skills until high school--a time when they're often already mired in a variety of difficult situations. IRaising a Thinking Preteen/I addresses this situation by presenting a well-developed program, ICPS (I Can Problem Solve), that's designed to help children think clearly about their actions and emotions by considering different viewpoints, solutions, and possible consequences. Every child can benefit from the concepts here; as author Myrna Shure says, "there is no ceiling or upper limit when it comes to learning interpersonal skills." The book begins with some practical basics--especially useful are some simple games that will help develop the vocabulary your child will use to discuss his feelings. Not every 8-year-old can define Iembarrassed/I or Ifrustrated/I very easily! This parent-friendly guide focuses on everyday occurrences and practical improvements rather than theoretical possibilities; as a result, each chapter is full of real-life examples and suggestions for teaching these techniques to your own children. Hurried parents who lack focused reading time will appreciate the way each chapter breaks down into smaller subjects--so those constant interruptions won't be such a bother. IJill Lightner/I Product Description In her bestselling iRaising a Thinking Child/i, Myrna B. Shure introduced her nationally acclaimed "I Can Problem Solve" program, which helps four to seven-year-olds develop essential skills to resolve daily conflicts and think for themselves. With iRaising a Thinking Preteen/i, Shure has tailored this plan especially for eight-to twelve-year-olds as they approach the unique challenges of adolescence.brbrThe preteen years are often the last opportunity for parents to teach their children how to think for themselves. This book is the only source with a proven plan to help them do just that.br

Customer Reviews: Horrible - Boring - Psychobabble! November 4, 2006 I bought this because of the great reviews. I think it's awefully boring. The writer takes this tone, like parents are morons with no common sense. I hated it and returned right away. Good resource for parents August 4, 2003 3 out of 4 found this review helpful Developmental psychologist Shure shares her method of encouraging kids to think for themselves, by learning and mastering a specific set of skills to become good problem solvers, make good decisions, and resolve conflict. Chapters discuss the wrong ways of parenting (explaining, suggesting, and overpowering) and recommends parents try the problem solving approach. Shure offers games to play to develop skills in such as thinking about how other people are feeling, recognizing conflicting emotion, planning alternative solutions, planning in a sequence, and considering consequences. A quiz at the end offers additional ways to test and hone these skills.brAt the beginning, Shute states that children must learn pro-social behaviors. Social withdrawl is not something one outgrows, and encourages adults to draw out the wallflower, loner types. Parental involvement is key.brExamples were always very clear, but sometimes the answers seemed too perfect. Not every child is a textbook case. Most of the book focuses on three different children, and more cases or diffent types of children might have been included. Still the premise is good, modeling behavior is recommended, and the techniques appear to work.brAll of the studies she cites are 13-18 years old, a point of concern, and the book loses a bit of credibility. However, the ICPS method is supposed to very good for kids with ADHD, a current hot topic. Updated research would lend more authority to the work. She frequently makes reference to colleagues with giving much explaination of their work, a minor frustration. References are cited at the end in a bibliography oddly divided by chapter, but without numbered or detailed notes. The author kindly includes her own mailing address, email address and URL for questions, concern and feedback.brNot having any children of my own to test Shure's theories out on, I hope to put them to use in dealing with some of the young adults I work with. Frustrated parents may find this book works for them; stock it in your parent teacher section. Best for parents and teachers... August 26, 2002 12 out of 12 found this review helpful Myrna Shure tells parents and teachers (from a cognitive-behavioral point of view) how to help 8- to 12-year-olds cope with ordinary and not-so-ordinary pressures of growing up. Her method is central to establishing a positive social emotional learning climate in a classroom. She also helps parents avoid the traps that parents fall into: power struggles, telling (i.e., ordering), explaining, and so forth. Her belief is that if children in this group can think better about emotional issues, then they will handle the pressures of adolescence much better. Therefore, while her work addresses immediate issues of growing up in 8 to 12 year-olds, she also thinks preventatively about the 13 to 18 year-old group.pShure proposes teaching youngsters five fundamental skills: (1) understanding another's feelings and point of view; (2) understanding motives; (3) finding alternate solutions; (4) considering consequences; and (5) planning sequential steps to arrive at one's goals. Her emphasis is on the child's intrinsic motivation to do better and be part of a group, not on extrinsic rewards (as in ordinary behavior therapy).pShe has great empathy and flexibility with kids. You will see in this book a perceptive, creative, and sensitive grown-up working with kids and parents. You will learn how to develop and apply these five skills with children--either in your home or in your classroom. The I Can Problem Solve (ICPS) program is worth the ticket of admission, but to get a chance to hear her good heart is a double bonus.pI also liked her time-frame. Children need time to grow. She is not an instant-fix-it expert. She respects kids enough to value their own pace, for themselves. Where the rubber meets the road October 25, 2000 11 out of 11 found this review helpful Wonderfully hands-on, this book really teaches the parent how to talk to the child in a way that is constructive, instead of so many of the destructive ways that we all, mostly unknowingly, fall into. This book and its predecessor, Raising a Thinking Child, should be used as textbooks for the parenting class everyone in America should be required to take before being allowed to have children. Great book for improving parent-child communication! March 24, 2000 71 out of 72 found this review helpful For anyone who wants a good relationship with their child that can hopefully last through the teen years, or wants to learn how to communicate effectively with their child, this book is a great start. If you have experienced the frustration of trying to reason with your child, and don't understand why your words are not working, this book really gives helpful guidelines on how to improve your methods of communication. If you find yourself yelling at your children, and experience that it just makes things worse, this book addresses this issue as well. It also tackles the problem of trying to think for your child. As a parent of a 7-year-old and a 4-year-old, this book will really help me to communicate and deal with my children in a way that nutures their growth as individuals who can really think for themselves.

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