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Author: Nina W. Brown
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
Category: Book

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Media: Paperback
Edition: 1
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 155
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.5
Dimensions (in): 8.8 x 5.9 x 0.4

ISBN: 1572243686
Dewey Decimal Number: 152.48
EAN: 9781572243682
ASIN: 1572243686

Publication Date: July 2004
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Condition: never read, excellent condition

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Editorial Reviews:

Product Description
Statisticians report that as many as two of every three married couples have at least one incident of spousal battery in their history; the number one motivation for these attacks is the jealousy of one partner. Whether motivated by a desire for power, attention, control, or affection, feelings of jealousy often lead to moments of emotional or physical violence that can cripple and destroy a relationship. PIn this, the first book ever written specifically to partners of jealous people, a professional counselor offers a series of assessments designed to help readers reflect on personality trait that contribute to jealousy, both in themselves and in their partners. The book contains exercises and strategies that will help readers involved in repairable relationships identify the triggers that provoke jealous reactions in their partners. Techniques for effective boundary-setting, enhanced communication, and deepened intimacy give readers the tools they need to work through periods of jealous reaction.

Customer Reviews:

4 out of 5 stars

Very useful and informative December 24, 2008
3 out of 3 found this review helpful

I am surprised to see only one review posted for this book. Then again, I'm surprised that I even read the book! This book is one of the many that sit on the shelves of the small library of books and videos that my wife keeps available for her patients. Neither I nor my wife are even remotely jealous. However, this book jumped out at me one day, so I read it. And I'm glad I did. br /br /Following are the Chapter's titles:br /1. Your Jealous Partner and Youbr /2. Triggers of Jealousy (Immediate Factors) and Why They Don't Matterbr /3. Why Your Partner Turns Green: Some Self Factorsbr /4. Past Experiencesbr /5. Family of Origin Experiencesbr /6. The Jealous Partner: Clingy and Reactive Stylesbr /7. The Jealous Partner: Manipulative and Exhibitionistic Stylesbr /8. Suggested Coping Strategies br /br /If you don't know this before you read the book, you surely will know it once you're finished reading the book: Jealousy is, perhaps, the "king" of irrational expressions. Jealousy, like other emotions and expressions, is essentially based on nothing pertinent to "now," or "the moment." The author nicely covers what could be causative factors, the "past experiences" and "family of origin experiences," but even if YOU are in "the now," the jealous person likely won't be. In and of itself, jealousy is harmless; it can sit in the mind of the insecure and fearful for years and years. However, once expressed, that unreasoning nothingness can become destructive, not just emotionally but physically. And for the really twisted, the irrationality of jealousy blended with a sprig of cunning can be wielded as an insidiously powerful tool for controlling others.br /br /What I liked about Ms. Brown's message was that she alerts us to not only the irrationality of jealousy but the measures that can be taken to prevent being caught up in the ridiculous and unproductive confrontations that commonly occur between one jealous person and that person's spouse or partner. She lists actions that should be considered when the jealous person may be headed toward throwing or does indeed throw a fit, actions (some, actually reactions) which she refers to as "internal and external." The Internal: (1) Remember that you are not a parent; (2) Avoid retaliation; (3) Leave others out; (4) Accept your partner's switches; and (5) Stay in touch with your thoughts and feelings. The External: (1) Soften your voice tone; (2) Reaffirm the relationship; (3) Maintain eye contact; (4) Try to relax; and (5) Avoid becoming defensive. br /br /And though this book was not required reading for me, I do not take it lightly. After having grown up in a fairly rough neighborhood, and having played in a club band for over five years, I can tell you that the jealousy affliction is not uncommon. I have seen more than one jealous individual physically strike a respective undeserving victim. Whether it be in public or in the privacy of your home, this abuse must not be tolerated. br /br /I recommend this book for those who have concerns about their spouses or mates; women, especially, must be informed and be prepared for the unreasonable (and I say this not in a sexist fashion). br /br /Joseph L. D'Agostino, author of "Modern Music Systems: a new perspective on music scales, clefs, and chords"br /

2 out of 5 stars

Author is biased and presumptious March 6, 2006
2 out of 5 found this review helpful

"Coping with your Partner's jealousy" had some useful information pertaining to how jealousy is related to childhood and adult traumas and some effective coping strategies for their partners. What I didn't like about the book is that the assumption the author took is that the partner of the jealous individual has absolutely no role in causing the jealous behavior. The author flat out states this and presumes that the "target" of jealousy is neither flirtatious, innapropriate or unfaithful, which statistically makes up for high percentage of relationships failing.br /I think the author may have had some negative experience in her life with a jealous person and is obviously biased in her observations despite her education and experience on the subject.

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